is not an exact scientific term. It can mean what most people do or what some people consider healthy, moral, regular, or natural, as opposed to sick, sinful, weird, or unnatural. It can mean what my mother, my priest, or the psychologist on Oprah Winfrey
says is okay. Or it can mean what I
think is okay. Normal is enormously susceptible to swinging with the gusts of politics and history. Disguised as scientific and fixed, it is subjective
and protean. That is why I used the word normative
above, a term derived from statistics, simply meaning what most people do. It's why I do not resort anywhere in this book to the common liberal
defense of kids' sexuality: that it is "normal and natural." Normal is problematic, because you can't have normal without abnormal. Acceptable behavior needs "unacceptable" (or "inappropriate") behavior to find its place in the world. To have an in-crowd, you have to have outcasts. — Judith Levine (2003). "Therapy". Harmful to Minors. Thunder's Mouth Press. p. 48. ISBN 1-56025-516-1. .